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Monday, March 17, 2008

We Get What We Get

Today, dressed in festive green, I feel lucky. Not because of the holiday today, but because I am surrounded by thinkers. VW brought up in an earlier post what freedom means to us individually, in The Neighborhood, the community, in our country, and in the world. I've been thinking about this. After reading Lorraine's recent post on freedom, I took pause.

This is where my mind is taking me today.

"You get what you get, so don't throw a fit!" This quote is courtesy of Winnie the Pooh, I believe and I hear it regularly in the kindergarten classroom where I work when birthday treats are passed out by the birthday child. The children have taken this quote to heart, so there's no squabbling over cupcake frosting colors, decorative napkins, and party favors (e.g. "I want the pink one! "I want the napkin with the purple balloon!" and so it goes).

However, when I was thinking of that quote today, that yes, we "get what we get" but we don't need the warning about the "fit." And I am not talking competing for baked goods. There are so many things that we can do with what "we get." We can acknowledge, accept, and still persevere. We can work for change, fight injustice, advocate for ourselves and others. We can beautifully root ourselves into our communities and in our lives or we can explore, brilliantly wander, and learn. To me, this is freedom. And you know, I think it's okay to throw a fit once and a while when we get what we get. It keeps us alive and free! Freedom is to craft our lives in any direction we choose, regardless of what we ended up with in the first place.

7 comments:

JosephMcG said...

Thanks for affirming "throwing a fit,"... I used to be one of those cinch your belt up and get on it kind of guys-- get hit, get up, go ahead on... but the keeping my pain and loneliness inside just led to my blood pressure getting higher or my biting someone's head off when she/he really had done anything that warranted my reaction...
So I am learning how to get the pain and joy out, and let my close friends listen to me and wait with me until I can breathe in and out freely again...
Here to those who throw a fit at the right time and in the way appropriate to that time...

Joseph

Kim Thompson said...

Right on, Oneal, right on!

Lorraine Hart said...

Beautifully put Kim. People who love to write can open a beautiful big box of chocolates under one word.

With that freedom to choose...at the very least our own attitude to whatever the struggle we're dealing with. I think of stories I've heard of those who could, in such situations as Nazi Concentration Camps, carry their attitudes as a graceful cloak of freedom, those who could let others sip from their well...smiling their encouragement to draw from them.

As for fits...well...I used to tell my children they were absolutely free to take one...but it would require leaving the presence of others and entering the space of their own rooms. I asked them to let me know when they were done, so that we could then sit down and talk. If it was an over-tired, over-frustrated need to discharge, they fell asleep pretty quickly...and if it was a power-play, it ended with no audience...making Mum's lap look like a pretty nice place to curl-up and talk.

I agree Joseph, it's definitely not healthy to stuff the tougher emotions. We desperately need the outlets that will let us discharge...the Arts being a perfect example. I, for one, raged and cried in the music of rock, the blues, and r&b.

Hell, I've shouted with hemlines!

Kim Thompson said...

Lorraine, like your posts, your comments are beautifully written! Thanks so much.

I've used the same tactics that you so wisely explained and it works wonders!

You know, I took a broad swipe at a big topic, but I guess I hear from folks who are frustrated and/or miserable with what they "have." Then I hear from folks who have really very little in the way of advantage, but grin from ear to ear at the simple things. Right now, my life is good, but I hope, as tough times come (and they will), I hope to use my freedom of choice for the positive, the hopeful, and the good. To me, that's sweet freedom.

Lorraine Hart said...

Sweet as blossoms on the vine!

Stephanie Frieze said...

Write on, Kim! Our most basic right is to craft our lives and take responsibility for what they become. ~Stephanie

Kim Thompson said...

Oh yes!