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Showing posts with label Elder Care. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Elder Care. Show all posts

Monday, December 22, 2008

Parenting Our Parents

Having an aging parent can be compared to caring for a child, but with some significant differences. They are your parent after all and used to being in the caretaker seat. And although everyone reads books on pregnancy and child rearing when they are expecting a baby, are given parties and gifts and advice, few of us are prepared for becoming our parent’s parent. I existed in denial until dawn gradually broke that my mother and I had swapped positions in the cosmos. This year has been a tremendous challenge and learning experience for me.

This fact reached past the current bad weather we are experiencing here in the NW when I received a comment on my blog about Manor Care from someone in North Carolina who has a mom in Manor Care, Tacoma. Their experience at the Tacoma facility has not been as good as that which we had at Manor Care, Gig Harbor and the plea for suggestions has raised some issues in my mind that are worth examining for everyone with an aging parent—for everyone with a parent since eventually they are going to get old. Some of the issues I have had to deal with besides care facilities are medications, equipment, shopping and security.

If you have an aging parent or believe they will one day be elderly, visit my blog The View From My Broom.

Friday, October 17, 2008

Manor Care is Not Just Another Nursing Home

Manor Care is committed to helping their clients achieve their highest level of health and independence possible.

The Baby Boom is dealing with the aging of the Greatest Generation. I have already lost my father and am now dealing with the making of decisions for my aging mother.

Previously I posted about my mother’s illness and hospitalization in Ilwaco, WA and my decision to bring her to Manor Care in Gig Harbor to rehabilitate. I talked about how getting her packed to go was similar to getting a child ready for camp. The analogy has held up and my decision on Manor Care well rewarded.

Tucked amidst the Doug Firs behind Peninsula Library, St. Anthony’s Medical Center and the Merrill Gardens Retirement Center, Manor Care is more akin to a large beautiful home than nursing home or medical facility. Decorated in mauves and creams, it is filled with traditional furniture and dozens of caring staff. It smells like a home, not a nursing facility.

I cannot say enough good things about the staff at Manor Care. Each one seems to be a caring gentle person with the capacity to remain calm in the face of even the crankiest patient. When I arrived at Manor Care following the drive from Ilwaco and followed closely by the ambulance bringing my mother, the staff was welcoming and made my mother’s transition easy for both of us. They took my mother to her room while I signed the paperwork which had already been taken care of with faxes of her records from the hospital at the beach.

Manor Care is committed to helping their clients achieve their highest level of health and independence possible. Bi-weekly meetings of patients' "Care Team" of therapists and nurses reviews progress made and keeps the client's goal in mind. This is not a nursing home where individuals are left in bed or warehoused. These campers are kept busy all the time.

If my mother is not working out in the physical therapy room on various machines or practicing balancing on one foot, she’s in the occupational therapy room with a small group cooking or doing crafts. The Speech/Language Pathologist works with small groups of residents on memory. We are particularly fond of Stephena because she actually lives near Ilwaco in Clatskanie, Oregon. Familiar with the facilities in that part of the world she is most supportive of my decision to bring my mother to Manor Care. As a matter of fact, she confided that she’s told her husband that if she should need nursing care to bring her to Gig Harbor and Manor Care.

Manor Care offers entertainment regularly in their dining room and residents are encouraged to attend the concerts and shows. Just this week they've had an acustical guitarist one day and German dancers for an Oktoberfest celebration the next. A big screen television in the day room has been the focus on debate nights during the time my mother has been there.

Residents and their families meet with their “Care Team” of therapists and nurses every two weeks to access their progress and determine how best to continue treatment. It is comforting to meet all these caring people and to get their in-put on creating the future of a loved one. I am going to give my own husband the same advice the SLP gave hers, "If I need nursing care take me to Manor Care!"

If you have a loved one who needs a beautiful, safe, caring place to be, consider Manor Care of Gig Harbor, located at 3309 45th St. N.W., Gig Harbor, 253-858-8688.

Saturday, September 27, 2008

Raising Mother

Baby Boomers Trade Childcare for Parent Care

Dave escaped yesterday. It took three buses and a train to get him back to Gig Harbor from Ilwaco, but he made his escape and under the circumstances I cannot blame him, only wish I would have been able to go, too.

My mother is ill and I am wending my way through American medicine and health care and the disposition of the elderly. I know I am not alone. We Baby Boomers have raised our children, are nearing retirement and would like to enjoy our grandchildren, but a new responsibility has replaced childrearing—care for aging parents.
This experience has been made needlessly harder from the beginning. I have dubbed it “St. Elsewhere of the Coast.” From the failure of the ambulance attendants to properly asses my mother when her medical security system called them—the first time—to the hospital’s decision to release her there has been frustration in getting her the help she needs.
If this subject interests you, read the rest of the story on my View from My Broom blog.